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Forum > Experiences, Anecdotes and Funny Misunderstandings > HC is NOT a dating service!!!
#0 HC is NOT a dating service!!! Fri 17 Mar 06 4:28:09
Russian Federation
It seems that spring is in the air and hospitality club is not an exception. 

Unceasing stream of "flirting" messages each day fills my mailbox (the smartest
ones write me directly to my e-mail or add in MSN). I already established my
personal nomination "the letter of the day" - for the most horny, unlogical and
weird letter. I'm not against intercultural friendship and communication, but
these guys definitely not looking for a friendship!!! They dont have any common
intellectual interests with me and usually start conversation with "Do u have a
webcam?", "I want to know u more/better!" or "can i see more photos of u?" (3
most popular beginnings of conversation). Cool, eh? 
Even after i wrote down in my profile "pls, no flirting spam - hc is not a
dating service!" i continue to receive all this crappy messages from the males
all other the world. Btw, it was more or less understandable when i was "spamed"
by males from eastern and asian countries, but now Europe almost outrun both
Asia and East. 
What the hell is wrong?! Can u see naked photos of me in my profile? No! And u
know, why? There are no naked photos of me in my profile!!!  Why then all this
males continue to spam me EVERY day?! And they even dont consider it as a spam.
"I just wanted to talk with u!". Awesome.

Sorry for such angry post, but it's really not funny anymore. All this crap
really distorts the idea of hospitality club for me. It's not what i expected
when had signed this community.

Btw, i wonder if moderators will delete this post according to Forum Rules
paragraph #3. But i'm not talking about particular case - it's general
situation. And if we want to make HC better place, we should discuss negative
aspects also.

So, lets state the question this way (actually it's question to females
hc-members): how you deal with this situation?
#121 HC is NOT a dating service!!! Mon 21 Aug 06 17:55:46
London - City of Westminster
United Kingdom
i keep my msn in my profile but it seems i dont get much joy....
girls where are you??
#122 HC is NOT a dating service!!! Tue 29 Aug 06 18:34:12
London - City of London
United Kingdom

try this 1:

good luck, bro  :PPP

#123 HC is NOT a dating service!!! Tue 29 Aug 06 23:10:15
I would love to know why do you exactly talk about morocco whats wrong with it
#124 HC is NOT a dating service!!! Sat 02 Sep 06 18:04:27
London - City of London
United Kingdom
Marroco, Italy, Spain, Turkey   Brazil :-P

u aint alone :-P
#125 HC is NOT a dating service!!! Wed 13 Sep 06 13:49:05
Beograd - Novi Beograd
Hmh...this all reminds me of adolescence period...I mean, c'm on, o' course we
all know very well that HC is NOT a dating "service" - there r million of
various dating sites, and U don't need really high intelligence to figure out
that HC is not among 'em, but that it's for totally different purpose. But like
in any other place, it's not forbiden too. School is not a dating service, work
also, but it happens many times that ppl who share common interests & spend some
quality time together do hook up, so I dunno what's the fuss if it's mutual. HC
is not different. 

The other thing is that everyone should repect that no means no. I never had
problem in that area - if U r not interested in someone - easy - just either
start talking about yr ex-b-friend or how much U like other guy, or emphasise
the meaning of FRIENDSHIP & not dating between U, or just simply say no - body
language helps a lot to in showing if yr interested or not.

Not a big deal, really...we know better than that, right...?

#126 HC is NOT a dating service!!! Wed 13 Sep 06 15:54:33
Hi there,

Very well said Veckey, i agree completly to what you said and have nothing to

Have a nice day all.

#127 HC is NOT a dating service!!! Wed 13 Sep 06 18:55:50
United Kingdom
Nice one.

Body language definitely talks... doesn't talk:  it SCREAMS. Any blind
person would know a banana or an orange in the dark: its that simple.
#128 HC is NOT a dating service!!! Thu 14 Sep 06 20:21:05
ehi, why do you add even Italy? isnt' Italy the country of angels? :D
We never flirt, come on , it's a stereotype :D
Greetings from Suzymuzy :)
#129 HC is NOT a dating service!!! Thu 14 Sep 06 20:36:10
people talk about morocco, as even though you try not to have stereotypes, they
might come after seeing that from about 5 hc people adding me to msn, at least 3
are from morocco wanting to know how am i and if i have a boyfriend and the
other 2 are most likely form turkey and have the same questions... and really
once in a while there is someone actually asking for accommodation...
not that i have any stereotypes against people from morocco who dont spend their
life trying to hook up with girls on msn... but i see the reason why morocco and
turkey are mentioned pretty often in this thread ;)
#130 HC is NOT a dating service!!! Thu 14 Sep 06 22:48:15
Hey, being new at HC I read this thread with much interest… 

Been on the chat too. Ignored ‘circumcised guy’, tried
‘Morocco-something’ who immediately ran away from my thirty-something age…
(Or maybe I said something wrong???? ;-)) 

Not much more to add to this thread, except maybe that it is refreshing to read
that the world is still filled with gentle people, healthy testosterone and
estrogen levels, and sensible thinking… I’d like to host you all!!!

I never get it when being hit on, unless it’s so blunt that it even would
scare a professional masseuse away, so maybe I’ll put my msn up for grabs and
finally enjoy recognizing a compliment or two… :-D
#131 HC is NOT a dating service!!! Thu 14 Sep 06 23:14:04
London - City of London
United Kingdom

my grandad's italian. Iknow him VERY WELLLLLLLLLL.... wohohohoho...

thankx 4 the greetings, mate
btw, hosting a italian right now :-P

ciaoooooooo, bello

#132 HC is NOT a dating service!!! Fri 15 Sep 06 2:44:30

I am really surprised and somehow disappointed, because i see it has become a
problem not only for me, but for other women in HC too... (even contries on my
"list" are the same!) All these stupid messages, silly flirting, sometimes even
rough actions on your non reply to such people. It is truth, the only way is
just ignore them. I always check what is HC profile of a person, who is trying
to make a contact with me, that really helped coupple of times, when i wrote to
spam team of HC volonteres. After that those spammers never again appeard :-)
Thank you
#133 HC is NOT a dating service!!! Sat 16 Sep 06 9:47:57


....there is no way 2 cope with it, I just ignore them....everyday I turn my MSN
on, I block some F**** „sexy-eyes&67Bhambar“spammers N thats it:)))))))
N I use: HC OFFER Excellent-free spam-checking mail-service.
I never talk 2 is 2o short 2 waste time on* meaningless*
things,isnt it???

I am not gonna 2 remove my MSN ads(Bcos of man I wont block

#134 HC is NOT a dating service!!! Sat 16 Sep 06 19:56:10
London - Kensington and Chelsea
United Kingdom
Of course HC is not- a dating site; 
The main prupose is meeting travellers iand international open minded people. 

Then some times it happen that 2 members become friends and have a relation (
whatever teh level of the relation) . 

Did these 2 people used HC to make a relation so tehy should have a bad
consciens.. or the shouldn't have bad coinciens as their 1st mean was only to
meet other HC travellers?? 

If a guy goes to the supermarket to buy a botle of milk and meets a nice person
and has a relation, would u consider the guy considers the supermarket as a
dating place.. hehe 

#135 HC is NOT a dating service!!! Sat 16 Sep 06 20:30:17
.........hey ...I ve just milk in my fridge

so lets go dating!!!!!!!!!!.....sorry I mean buying milk:))))))))))))))))))))


....hmmm if U MEET(in real life,host/guest,meetings,camps...) some1 U like sooo
much N he/she likes U,U wont do anything 2 stop it.We usually meet ppl with same
 interests/lifestyles,so it happens.(I have heard some stories,its definitely
around us) N if both say YES(they must say yes,no pushy ways!!!),it doesnt mean
that HC is a dating site….ITS LIFE!!!!

#136 HC is NOT a dating service!!! Sat 16 Sep 06 23:39:18

the typical finnish reaction to the word "friend" just reminded me of some ollld
old old relationship of mine with a finnish boy(stayed in my place for weeks and
weeks and several times, ate and drank at my own expense, got entertained but
still not called me a friend). sertac dont get offended this is their national
characteristic. i think Finland is the only country where you are nice with
someone and get a reaction like: i'm disturbed that you are so nice with me.
so.. easy.
i got spammed several times but most of it was not by those "some countries"dear
Tenetsi but mostly from US, Canada and some western european countries. is it
some sort of orientalism or do people just get impressed when they see people
from "the other half of the world"? hummm?
one fine advice. remove ur msn from your profile. the ones who are bona fide
willing to contact you will contact you anyway. get spam filter to your private
messages. or just ignore them. sometimes i get several messages full of things
like "i like your picture you give me the verve to travel to Turkey" hehehehe.
it can be fun just to read them and ignore them too. of course, i can tolerate
being called "friend", "sis", "sweetheart"or things like that and i just did not
like the tone of the messages coming from the inhabitants "some" countries in
this thread. wanted to express it.
very spammy cheers to everyone.

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