Hi Folks,

I spoke to a scandinavian friend of mine the other day. She told me that she
(and all her other female HC buddies) pretty regularly get contacted by (mostly
"older")men trying to woo them some way or another, mostly adding them to their
MSN list, calling them "my little blond angel" etc... I mean OK, HC should be
used to make contact with other people, and if it leads to more than just
"hospitality", fair play. But using it just with the intentention to get laid by
a blonde seems pretty sad, and in my eyes represents a grave violation of the
very essence of what HC is all about. 

Have you had similar experiences? What do you think about it? 

Cheerio.

Freddie 

Hi Freddie,

Thanks for addressing the issue, i got weird mails from an HC member too but
they were all in german lol.. I can't read german. But another member who reads
german conveyed the message 'not interseted'

Well HC is fun fun place help to keep it abuse free!!

best regards
Vindya

hi freddie,
yes those things use to happen and although i didn't experience it in any kind
of offensive way it can get a bit annoying.Then i was added on msn in the
beginning and actually tried to chat with those guys and it became pretty
obvious that they don't even made the attempt to scroll down and read my
profile.I give my msn after some first contact through hc cz I really don't want
to block people.
Its funny especially the blonds receive many of those messages,well..I don't get
it blond is just a colour,isn't it? :)
Cheers
Masha

That Zak0r calls me darling, I'm scared.

I´m getting a little confused here, last last night we had a lot of fun in my
room last night....

@dangaroo
he, zak also calls me "darlin"!!! alter steltzbock!!!
@fredox
yeah, its discusting... some time it happends that young cute girls write u
messages, or even more worst invite u and want to make u obediant with
vanilavodka-apple juice!
i ask u all... is this the true hc-spirit???
wokzter
ps. ask psytek about this topic... in an other thread he told me that often
older men contact him and want to marry him :-/

I´m getting a little confused here, last last night we had a lot of fun in my
room last night....

last night x3? u really really seem to be into this thing really :) enjoy ;)

Escarabajo obviously took care of those men who were trying to marry psy!

Heh wokster 

Yep Psytek the italian macho man must be getting a lot of chicks running behind
him . ;)

Hi,
since i did not mention my MSN in the profile i don´t get a lot this way. But
anyway dating spam is rather rare for me, i would just kick any "blond little
angels"-caller i don´t want to talk to out of any list and that is it. 
If it really gets annoying and you know the username it would be a good idea to
just write a short comment. This can be very important to ban abuse further!
But normally if you provide the data in the profile you should maybe be aware
that this can happen. other than with messages that can be checked if you want.

Definitely, try to keep that out of HC, there are really better qualities to it
that this compulsive dirt;-) 

I'm starting to get my feelings hurt!  Am I not worth spamming for sex and
marriage?  But seriously, I was wondering why so many girls seem to have this
problem and I haven't, and I think it's down to 1. not putting direct contact
details, 2. not putting a gorgeous photo, and 3. not specifying who I live with
I guess I did it that way automatically because I'm naturally a little paranoid,
but I guess it was sensible, and I'm happy to give these details after an
introductory email.  
Actually, to clarify about the photo- gorgeous would be hard for me to do, but I
did change the photo I had on couchsurfing from one that was very sweet and
innocent and soft looking (easy prey I guess) to one which is not ugly (I hope)
but a little more grown up and worldy wise maybe?  And it had the desired
effect; I immediately stopped getting manspam.  Seems a small difference, but it
seemed to work.  I do think it's good to have photos btw, it just seems easier
to pick out the people you might be able to connect with.  (I know, the one here
doesn't even show my face- it was the only thing good in the camera at the
time)
p.s.  I don't mind the ads if they help keep HC free (cuz I'm poor), and I don't
even mind if some people do want to invite that kind of attention with enticing
profiles, but I'm always amazed at how some people can miss the distinction!